The Silent Trauma: Understanding PTSD Caused by Parental Alienation
Behind closed doors and veiled by manipulation lies a silent epidemic—the insidious erosion of parent-child relationships, leaving a trail of emotional devastation in its wake. While much attention is rightfully given to the immediate effects of parental alienation, far less is said about the lasting psychological scars it leaves behind, including the often-overlooked reality of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Parental alienation, for those unfamiliar, is a form of emotional abuse in which one parent systematically undermines and manipulates the child’s relationship with the other parent. Through subtle or overt means, the alienating parent instills fear, hostility, and rejection towards the targeted parent, causing deep emotional turmoil for both parent and child. This relentless psychological assault can have profound and lasting effects, leading to symptoms consistent with PTSD in many cases.
For the targeted parent, the trauma of parental alienation is akin to living in a perpetual state of war—a constant barrage of emotional attacks, gaslighting, and manipulation that leaves them feeling powerless and isolated. They may experience intrusive thoughts and memories of happier times with their child, only to be painfully reminded of the irreparable damage done to their relationship. Flashbacks to court hearings, custody battles, and futile attempts at reconciliation haunt their every waking moment, triggering intense feelings of anxiety, anger, and despair.
Hypervigilance becomes a way of life as they navigate the treacherous waters of co-parenting, constantly on edge, anticipating the next attack or betrayal. Sleep disturbances, nightmares, and physical symptoms such as headaches and digestive issues are common, further exacerbating their sense of helplessness and isolation. They may withdraw from social interactions, struggling to trust others or form meaningful connections, haunted by the fear of being abandoned or betrayed once again.
But perhaps the most insidious aspect of PTSD caused by parental alienation is the profound sense of guilt and shame that accompanies it. Targeted parents often blame themselves for the breakdown of their relationship with their child, questioning their worthiness as a parent and replaying every perceived misstep or mistake in excruciating detail. They may feel unworthy of love or incapable of forming healthy relationships, trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and self-blame.
For the child, the trauma of parental alienation is no less devastating. Caught in the crossfire of their parents’ bitter feud, they are torn between conflicting loyalties, forced to choose sides in a battle they never asked to be a part of. They may experience intense feelings of guilt, confusion, and shame, struggling to reconcile their love for both parents with the toxic messages being fed to them by the alienating parent. Over time, these internal conflicts can manifest as symptoms of PTSD, including nightmares, flashbacks, and avoidance behaviors.
It is imperative that we shine a light on the silent epidemic of PTSD caused by parental alienation, raising awareness and advocating for greater support and resources for those affected. Targeted parents must be empowered to seek help and support from mental health professionals who are knowledgeable about the unique challenges of parental alienation. Family court systems must be held accountable for failing to recognize and address the trauma inflicted by parental alienation, ensuring that the best interests of the child are always paramount.
But perhaps most importantly, we must recognize that healing from the trauma of parental alienation is a journey—one that requires patience, compassion, and unwavering support. By coming together as a community, offering understanding and solidarity to those affected, we can begin to break the cycle of trauma and reclaim our rightful place as loving, supportive parents to our children.
I’m Randy Morano—a father, author, and staunch advocate for parental alienation awareness. My journey through the depths of parental alienation has transformed me into a passionate advocate, dedicated to shedding light on this overlooked form of emotional abuse.
As a survivor, I understand the profound impact of parental alienation firsthand. Through my writing and advocacy efforts, I aim to raise awareness, empower others, and provide support to families in need. Join me in the fight for change and hope.
